So my last post was kind of a bummer, but it made me feel so much better to write and share and let it out. And I have some good news, I’m totally getting my mojo back. I can’t be kept down for long. Yes, life can be a rollercoaster. Emotions are a weird and wonderful thing that we can’t control. Sometimes you just have to hang on and see where they take you. Thank goodness they have brought me back to feeling OK again. If I’m anything, I’m resilient.
With my emotional turmoil subsiding, I find that I’m still pretty set on pausing the RV life for a while and checking out the Denver area. Going to give it another week or so to think it over before making any moves. The best part of my whole work/travel lifestyle is that I have the option to try this out for however long I feel like with no real consequences. I can get back on the road at any time (weather permitting…), or I could stay forever. Who even knows.
Trying to find a way to accept sad and bad things that happen is a challenge for everyone. Experiencing this over the past week reminded me that I’ve developed some tried and true methods for making myself feel better. They work for me, and I’ve decided I want to share them with you all so that maybe someone else can get some use out of them as well.
When you are feeling uncomfortable in your own skin, and when your mind is endlessly pouring through negative thoughts, exercise can allow you to focus on something else. Physical effort and a focus on your body can distract you from the mental negativity. It also does all sorts of fun chemical stuff to make you feel better, and makes you tired and relaxed and less wound up. Plus if you are dealing with boy (or girl) issues, it has the added benefit of eventually making you sexier if you try hard enough.
2. Pep talks
Personal pep talks or pep talks from friends can totally cheer you up. Things like: “YOU are AWESOME and BEAUTIFUL and SPECIAL and you’ve come this far and you’re going to be FINE.” Practice controlling your inner monologue – don’t let the negative refrain take over, talk nicely to yourself and remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can and are a good person. I take this a step further and go on about how I’m a bad ass bitch, tough as nails, “can’t nobody hold me down”, etc. Do what you gotta do.
Sometimes if I’m really upset, I can’t listen to music at all. Music is often emotional and introducing any additional emotions into the mix when you are upset can feel uncomfortable. But eventually when I’m just moderately upset, music can be helpful. If I have any small inkling of feeling better, I will listen to some awesome pumped up rap / electronic / hip hop / pop music to amplify that. Including my personal choices (AND DON’T YOU DARE JUDGE ME): Kanye – Stronger, Demi Lovato – Confident, Dada Life – Kick Out The Epic, Lil Wayne – Watch My Shoes , Lil Wayne – Ice Cream Paint Job. (ok these last 2 are prettttty offensive and there are a LOT of swears…. just a warning. Maybe not everyone’s cup of tea…)
4. Share and connect
Reach out to your friends and family and be honest with how you are feeling and that you may need a hug. Writing that last blog post really helped me to let it out and share and hearing from friends helped immensely. I can’t tell you how much I appreciated all your notes and comments. Really helped me turn this attitude around. I also ended up making A MILLION PLANS to see a bunch of people and get myself out and about. Talking to people and connecting can cheer you up.
Busy yourself. With friends, with work, with a project, with anything. Find something to focus on that isn’t your current problem. Don’t bury it away and never deal with it – just give yourself a break to relax and try to do something else. Sometimes for me my mind races too much and the only thing I’m able to do is #1 on this list – exercise. At least I can distract my body even if I can’t control my mind.
6. Forgive yourself for being upset
I get mad at myself for letting things get to me. That leads to me just generally feeling down on myself and disappointed in myself. Which is the opposite of what you should be doing if you’re trying to get your mojo back (see: Pep Talks). It’s OK to be upset about things – everyone gets down sometimes. Allow yourself to have those emotions for a while but also focus on trying to move on to a better place.
These are the things that work for me – maybe they will work for you too. Maybe you are way ahead of me and don’t need this type of advice. Well screw you, then! 🙂
Just kidding. Life is tough for everyone in different ways at different times. We have to look out for each other. So thanks for the nice messages they really cheered me up and definitely helped me feel better. Sometimes sharing how you feel and knowing that there are people out there who can relate helps a lot. All you can do is keep moving forward!
I have some big decisions to make coming up about if I will be staying in Colorado and of course where… Some exciting things in the works. More soon!